What are you focused on?
Stop discussing your problems over and over and over again with everyone you meet. The more you discuss “the problem” the more attention you are giving to it and that is the vibration you are offering to the Universe. So the Universe says “Okay! More of that then”.
If you are discussing a problem with the thought of generating a solution to it, that is great. But if you are doing it just to “vent out over and over with everyone”.. Well where is the solution in that. All it will do is leave you feeling worse than when you started.
If you really want to change your life talk about the things you appreciate about your life, talk about the things that really make you happy.. And the Universe will say “more of that, then”